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April 13th, 2009 | Author: admin

My son is now in the 1st grade and my daughter is 17 months old. With the birth of our new boy approaching faster than I can believe, I have been amazed about how much my children have grown and most of all, how smart they are.

Samuel can now read a book with no problem. He read all by himself, for the first time, a book that I wrote and illustrated. That was an amazing experience! He spells words that I still struggle with and he has begun to beat me regularly when we play Nintendo together. He is becoming an independent young man and has already begun to develop teenage habits. The other day he came home with a girls phone number.

Aubreigh is amazing as well. She now opens child safety-locked cabinets with the ease of a master locksmith. They still perplex me. Now if I need a cabinet open, I spare myself beat up knuckles and just ask her to do it. She dresses herself, although not tastefully. Her outfits consist of large socks, shirts worn as skirts and various articles of clothing slung about her neck. She even feeds the cat many times throughout the day (2 pieces of a cat food at a time. It is adorable.)

A few things have happened in the past weeks that have really put things in perspective for me.

1. I decided to play a joke on my usually gullible son. I took a pinch of black Play-Doh and smeared it on one of my front teeth. I then approached him and casually said “Did Mommy tell you what happened earlier? I got a tooth knocked out.” I grinned to show him the blacked out tooth. “DUH,” he replied, “That’s just Play-doh. That’s preposterous.” He was right. Play-Doh may smell tasty but it isn’t. And it doesn’t easily come off teeth. Who was the smart one here? The 6 year old with no Play-Doh on his tooth or the 29 year old with black Play-Doh smeared across his tooth and the horrible, salty taste associate with it.

2. My youngest is akin to a cat. She does things that make no sense to anyone but herself. I was in the shower when I was greeted with a “DAAAADDY.” Then suddenly, my clean underpants were thrust into the shower and were  soaked. Of course she was trying to be helpful. All I could say is “Thanks,” followed by a mumble of “what a nut…she makes no sense sometimes. What is she thinking” A little later, she begged for my car keys, which I let her play with. She immediately took them to the VCR and shoved them in. Again, all I could do was say to myself “what a nut! No sense at all, that one.” I went to the VCR to fish them out. The lights on the VCR begun to flash wildly, in and out, as I dug around blindly inside with my hand. That’s when it hit me, who is the smart one in this situation. Who is the nut? The 17 month old thrusting my clothes into the shower and my keys into the VCR? Or the 29 year old wearing wet underpants with his \hand jammed into an electronic device, still plugged in and powered up. 

Jeff – Zero. Kids – Two.

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March 27th, 2009 | Author: admin

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This week’s installment of Father Duck’s Nursery Rhymes presents to you Little Miss Mumpus. Mother Goose of course stole her Little Miss Muffet poem from Father Duck’s original. As you will see, this version is far superior.

Little Miss Mumpus

by Father Duck

Little Miss Mumpus
Sat on her rumpus
Eating beans all the day.

Along came a spider
To sit down beside her 
But instead was blasted away.

 

Little Miss Mumpus

Little Miss Mumpus

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March 23rd, 2009 | Author: admin

One of the most important lessons I’ve learned being a stay at home, work from home father starting my own business is to find balance in my work. By this I mean finding time for both my work for others and for my personal projects. Work for others grows business worth, personal projects grows self worth. It is a welcome break. A chance to work in your own world. A vacation. Above all else, self worth directly grows business worth.

I have found as I work on my personal projects, my inspiration and excitement towards my business work grows. Even if it is just 15 minutes a day, I set time aside for myself. It is a means for me to unwind and relax my creativity. It is a reminder of who I am and why I love design and love my job. I set goals for myself and always keep plenty of ideas in my head for the future. It keeps me fresh and ready to tackle any project.

This week has been my busiest yet. I have begun work with a company designing CMS websites. I have spent a vast amount of time training with the technology and I’m excited about its possibilities. I have decided to migrate my Duck of All Trades site over to a CMS system. I hope to have this done in the upcoming weeks. In addition, it will most likely be combined with this blog. The combined site will be put on www.duckofalltrades.com and this site as a mirror site. Nothing will change with my blog and you can still read it here, but it will be more of an integral part of Duck of All Trades. This should be a great example of personal work influencing business.

I will keep you up to date and share my experiences with the new websites I will be producing. In addition, this week should see the finishing of Stromple the puppet. He now has skin! Just not on his body. I will have a big update for him tomorrow and he should be done by the end of the week for an unveiling on Monday. Wednesday I should have a Moo-Pig update for you and Thursday Purple Fish will stop by. Of course Friday’s are always fun and exciting.

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March 09th, 2009 | Author: admin

 

Todd Spitting Peas at Jeff

Todd Spitting Peas at Jeff

What a weekend! Sadly I must report that I’m still being held captive by Todd Pigworth and his piggy minions. He has me tied to a chair. Currently he is busy spitting peas at me. “Can you stop that?” I asked him. He wouldn’t. So I asked nicer “Can you stop spitting at me? Pretty peas?” *insert drum sound* Apparently he didn’t think this to be a funny joke. If I ever get loose, I’m going to mow his pants down with a lawnmower. Luckily he is allowing me to make an update on my blog…I’m sorry, my BOG. Geeze, who knew pigs could be so particular?  How am I typing with my hands tied together you ask? Simple. I’m really good at typing with my feet.

Last week was a success for Duck of All Trades. First, I was honored to display my puppets at the McDowell County Chamber of Commerce Annual meeting. I had 16 puppets on display. I am very grateful for the opportunity. I made new contacts, had a great meal, watched an entertaining ventriloquist act and won a “bag full of stuff.” Yes, I won a door prize that was touted as a “Bag Full of Stuff.” I could care less what was in it. This is the first time I have ever won anything like this. Maybe I’m starting to get my mom’s luck? 

The highlight of the evening for me was meeting Peggy Miller, a wonderful ventriloquist. You can visit her site here. I was impressed by her puppet skills. She was able to use two vent dummies at once, switching between multiple controls, multiple voices and multiple personalities. If you ever have a chance to see her, please do. 

Business wise, I have a few new clients this week. Adwords seems to finally be paying off. I am still getting a small click through ratio (.06% or one pet gerbil) but apparently it is enough to generate interest. www.duckofalltrades.com stats are also improving. Since starting with adwords, I have gone from about 4 unique visitors a day to an average of 21. While this isn’t great, it’s an improvement. I have also spent time optimizing my site for Google. As a result, my placement has been better and I’ve been getting more traffic from searches. In the coming weeks I plan to work harder to improve the site by adding new content. Some of the ideas I have for content are:

  • Original articles taken from this blog, such as the Birth of a Book series. This will show potential clients my process and sell me to them as an illustrator.
  • Create a publishing resource directory filled with valuable information from sites and sources I recommend. Not random sites, but sites that are genuinely useful.
  • More samples of work.
  • Tweak how my work is displayed. Make it more user friendly.
  • Create faq page.

These changes will be done over time and the end result should be an increase in traffic. For now, the goal with my site is to begin to tailor it to what people are looking for. Despite more traffic, some visitors leave after viewing one page. This has lead to the question “If I were to show one potential client one page for a minute or less, which page would that be?”  To answer this, I’m going to set up new “portfolio pages.”

These will be pages unique to my different services, crafted with relevant information all on one page and linked to my adwords advertisements. The first page I will create will be a “Children’s Illustration” page. Instead of having thumbnails to other pages, this page will contain a self contained gallery. It will also show an estimate of time and cost, information about myself, links to “Birth of a Book” to show my process, and any information I feel like will sell my services best. I am limiting the gallery to ten images. For these ten images I am creating a new portfolio. Below is the first image I will include in the portfolio. I hope to create 1o new pieces for the page. Just what I need. ANOTHER project. The next update, I hope to have the beginnings of this page as well as an update on Stromple the Puppet (which I have fleece for).  There are many more adventure to come.

I also hope to be freed from peas.

 

Under the Sea Birthday Surprise

Under the Sea Birthday Surprise

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February 26th, 2009 | Author: admin

At the ripe age of 15 months, Aubreigh has reached the terrible twos. Her worst habit? Removal of clothes. Were not just talking about one or two socks, but removing everything except her diaper (and sometimes even that). She thinks about it constantly. You can look into her eyes and see the wheels turning. She is thinking, plotting about when and what her next clothes escape attempt will be. Sometimes she is clever about it. One minute she will be fully clothed, the next she has ducked behind a chair made a few grunts to cover the sound clothes being stripped off, pops up and is in nothing but her Huggies. Sometimes she is less obvious. I call this the stop, drop and run method. This entails a sudden stop of activity as the thought enters her head followed by a sudden burst of running while sliding arms out of sleeves, kicking legs free of pants and general shimmying about until sufficient lack of clothes is achieved. This method is not as successful, usually ending in tripping over slippery pants as they fall to her knees or the dreaded “shirt over the eyes” run into the random object disaster (the ottoman or couch being the most common and comical of items to watch her bounce off of.) It does not matter how cold she is. She is going to get out of those clothes.

The reasoning? Well, quite honestly, I think it is because she can. It is a game to her to see what she can get away with. “I’ll show that daddy! He says I can’t play with electrical outlets? Fine, we will see how HE likes it when I show him that if I can’t have what I want then he won’t have a clothed baby.” Or sometimes it is just for comic effect. “I wonder if I can slip out of these pants with no one noticing….yes! I can. Now to be funny, I will pop on on the count of 3. 1…Y…5(she can’t count yet of course)…TA DA! Look Ma! No pants!” This is usually followed by either Keeley or I chasing her down as she squeals. She is the Houdini of baby clothes. She has thwarted every attempt I have made to prevent her removing them. Finally, yesterday I put on a one piece footed pair of pajamas. To further thwart her, I placed a safety pin through one side of the collar, through the zipper and through the other side of the collar. I was feeling confident when I opened the door to get her up from her nap. Of course I was greeted to Aurbeigh smiling, her clothes in a heap on the floor. The safety pin had been easily unfastened, discarded without injury and clothes shed. She proudly greeted me with a “Bye bye, Beeeby.”

Lately she has developed another funny habit. She insists that I wear my hat at all times during the day. If I don’t have it on, she finds it follows me around and yells “DAAAAAA” until I bend over and let her place it clumsily on my head. If I take it off, she quickly puts it back on. This is her way of gaining a little control. It’s her way to let me know that yes, it’s OK for her to strut around the house in her diaper like a banty rooster. But me? I am doomed to have perpetual hat hair. If she could talk, I’m sure she would simply say “Nudity for some, hats for others.”

In other news, here is the most recent sketch for Marmalade. Your comments and suggestions are greatly appreciated.

 

Moo-Pig gets laughs, but not a blue ribbon.

Moo-Pig gets laughs, but not a blue ribbon.

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February 22nd, 2009 | Author: admin

I have spent an incredible amount of time lately (thanks to my partner in Design Connie sharing with me books by Seth Godin) evaluating my business. What is it? What does it need to be? Where is it going. As a stay at home father, it is crucial for me to be successful. My wife Keeley and I made the decision a year ago with the birth of our daughter that I should try to work from home and be a stay at home father. After spending 6 years working in a graphic design market as a temp, a freelancer and a contractor, it made sense. For once I would be in control of my destiny. My job security would not depend on if the company I was working for at the time had the payroll or the business. My job security would now rely on me. I was free to make of it what I could within a reasonable limit. Not to mention the thousands a year we would save in child care and the piece of mind we would have knowing that our youngest would be well taken care of and our oldest would have the help he needed with his homework.

I’m happy to say that after a year, I haven’t failed. My business has shown progress with slow and steady growth and I have successfully changed 875 diapers, 342 which have been rather unpleasant in the smell department. OK, so that’s an estimate. You don’t seriously think I keep track of diapers, right? However, I now realize that it won’t be enough to not fail. I need to thrive, to find my voice and find an audience. I have put a number of measures in place to allow this. I have been tracking stats more seriously for my site. I have it optimized and streamlined. I have started using Adwords to help promote my site and attract new visitors. Most importantly, I have realized what a SMALL window the web is. Most users I have view my site for less than 30 seconds. Most click off after one page. A quick exit. To me, this is scary. How do you sell a customer in less than 30 seconds and after a one brief glance. This is a question I have struggled with lately. It isn’t an easy thing to do. The tough thing about the web is if a viewer isn’t immediately impressed, they can look elsewhere with the click of a mouse.

My remedy for this is working on making my website more relevant. The website as we know it is dead. The web is no longer an album, such as the Beatles’ “Seargent Peppers Lonely Heart Club Band,” meant to be listened to from beginning to end. It is a streamlined collection of all their greatest hits in MP3 format and the surfer has the power to go to any song, fast forward, rewind and skipping to only the parts they want to hear. Like it or not, google and other search engines have led to this. So what works? Relevancy. Controlling what the viewer sees through that small window by using more specific keywords and giving the mythical search engine crawlers what they need: better site maps. Also, I have tailored my AdWords to point potential clients to the information they want, not to what I think they may want after they give me a chance. That way if they only give me 30 seconds of their time, it is 30 seconds dedicated to something that might interest them. I also plan to add more visuals. You can learn much more about a picture at a moments glance than a grouping of words.

So will it succeed? I can guarantee that it won’t fail, at least not in my mind. You see, I believe the only way to fail is to not learn. If you are walking along and you trip because your shoe laces are untied, have you failed? Not if you get up, realize that if you tie them, you won’t trip again and then keep them tied. When you learn from a mistake, that’s not a failure. That is a growth. Eventually you learn to tie double knots and it is smooth sailing from there. More importantly, have I succeeded? I see that answer everyday when my daughter surprises me with what she has learned in her short time on earth or when I pick my son up from school and find out he has made another 100 on his spelling test. That is all the success I need as a father to inspire the success I will need as a new business owner trying to find his way.

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February 17th, 2009 | Author: admin

I use a shop vac to clean the house. The fact I’m using a garage “tool” totally outweighs any noncoolnes in doing housework. Seriously. And I’m not talking about your run of the mill shop vac, I’m talking a big beefy, suck a size 2T sock up in a heart beat piece of machinery. Not only does it clean the floor, but it will suck off any couch, any mini blind, any crevice, etc. Ceiling fan blades cringe at the thought of being touched by such an awesome force that is a shop vac. Not to mention that it will clean a hardwood floor without slinging debris and other small objects everywhere. Nothing escapes one. Plus if you get bored you can play a fun game. It is called “What is the biggest object I can suck with a shop vac?” You would be surprised. Need a good laugh? They also make great hairstyling tools for the little ones. You know, give them that nice ice cream cone shaped hair they so desire.

I’m still trying to find a manly alternative to a mop but have had little luck. The pressure washer was fun, but the results were mixed. Good thing we have flood insurance.

In other news, here is a picture of a new creation. I call him “Chalupa.” He has given me an idea for a catchy new website. I will keep you updated as this site progresses. Right now, it is top secret.

Chalupa the puppet hogging the camera.

Chalupa the puppet hogging the camera.

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